When choosing cremation for a loved one, you want to make sure that he or she is treated with dignity and respect. Some people may be apprehensive about cremation because they can't be there through every step of the process like they can with a burial. Fortunately, there are some things crematories can do to provide you with added peace of mind. As you look for a cremation facility, here are a few things to keep in mind so you can feel comfortable with this decision.
You may be wondering how the crematory can ensure the proper remains are returned to you. Crematories sometimes have ID controls in place that can provide additional reassurance. This might include placing a wrist ID on the remains when they are received and having multiple staff members verify your loved one's identity before the cremation process has begun. Ask the representative of the crematory which ID verification steps are in place to provide you with added peace of mind.
In some cases, you can arrange to be at the crematory when your loved one is brought there, which means you can verify that the proper name is used to identify your friend or relative. You may also be able to arrange for observation before the cremation process begins. This gives you a chance to do a final verification of your loved one's remains to help ensure the correct cremains are returned to your family. If you wish to be present, you will need to arrange this with the crematory in advance.
The regulations for how cremains are returned to you may vary from state to state. You may prefer to transfer them to an urn of your choosing on your own, or you may wish for the crematory to handle this for you. Ask how cremains will be returned, and ask if you can have them placed in an urn for you. Some crematories may also have urns you can choose from, so you can handle both the cremation and urn purchase in the same place. The crematory may also be able to arrange for cremains to be added to memorial jewelry or other keepsakes you wish to give to family members.
Don't be afraid to ask lots of questions before choosing a crematory. Once you have the answers you need and feel comfortable with the process, you can choose a facility that can help you to remain at peace with the process.